In To Be Loved, Frank shares his confusing experience of growing up an outsider in a typical midwestern Italian American home that was at one turn fiercely loving but at the same time unaccepting, abusive, and rife with secrets. After enduring six years of therapy as a child in the 1970s, he was programmed to be something that he wasn’t for decades, and became driven to create the perfect life―complete with a family, a successful career and a house with white picket fence in the suburbs―until it all fell apart. It was only then that he realized resilience, forgiveness and facing his trauma were the keys to living an authentic life―and finally knowing what it feels like to be loved.